From Anger to Justice as Peace
“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose” Dr Wayne Dyer.
When legal problems come, when conflict bangs on your door, it is a survival instinct to go into fight, flight, freeze, fawn modes. We might react by angrily fighting back and the adversarial system is built to encourage this fight between adversaries. It is the same blind fury that unnecessarily fuels the prolongation of acrimonious court hearings at great mental, emotional, spiritual and financial cost to all those involved and their children.
In this video interview (available in October 23), we discuss how yoga therapist Nalanie Harilela Chellaram supports Amber Law clients in shifting from anger to relaxation, from anger to self-reflection, from anger to accountability, from anger to an appreciation that there is a lesson to be learned, wrapped up inside every conflict and which if grasped, leads to dissolving the conflict and longstanding peace.
Conflict and anger lead to self-destruction and cause harm to those we love, family, friends, and children caught in crossfires, our work colleagues and acquaintances. Accepting ones own personal responsibility in whatever has arisen, rather than blaming others, is a first step to reframing, refocusing and awakening to your power to become an active participant in resolving the conflict. In victim mindsets, the limiting belief is that we have no control over our circumstances and/ or that another person (lawyer, judge, former spouse, etc) has the key to unlock the conflict we are in; that we are powerless to design our outcome. This is far from the truth.
If we believe that war is the only way forward, peace will never be found. It is only in those who are open to the possibility that peace is available to them despite their traumatic circumstances, that peace soon arises and rests within.
Nalanie shares the wisdom that conflict dissolves when you stop reacting to it and instead do not engage at all, (non-attachment). Eventually, the one who wants war finds themselves warring alone! Then, when they hear the echoes of their loud, angry, narcissistic, voices long and hard enough, they stop, realising they are only hurting themselves!
There are many troubled souls in this world of duality, and we can fix no-one other than ourselves. We can only support those who awake and courageously embark on their transformative journey from fearful, angry mindsets towards justice as peace.
For those who do, they become beacons spreading peace and light to all those around them in the ripple effect.
Tools to practice: meditation, mindset, and forgiveness
For Yoga Therapy client/ couples consultations contact: nalanie30@gmail.com